Limits

Limits come in many shapes and sizes.  I’m limited by how many hours I can go without sleeping, how much money I have, the number of friends I can talk to in a day, the places I can go with a sensitive child, and so on.  You get the idea. 

Many view limits as a necessary evil.  In reality, they are an expression of love; an opportunity for grace, growth and accepting help.

Loving the Unlovable

We all have people in our lives that seem unlovable.  It is particularly challenging when these are ones we "should" love.  When someone close to me makes my life difficult, it is tempting to throw in the towel. 

Letter to the Birth Mother

BY: Christine White

     I've never seen your actual face, only evidence of it in your daughter, my daughter, our child.  I can't tell you my thoughts.  I don't know your name or address-- only the child you carried in your belly, who you passed through your uterus and into this world.  Sometimes, I think we are like the two chambers of her heart.  You made the blood and the muscle of her heart, but I keep the blood flowing and feed her 24/7 love. 

Confessions

So, I was at my chiropractor's the other day, and she was trying to make me feel better about having been irritable with my kids.  She says to me, "We all have mommy moments.  Last night I bit my daughter's elbow."  What?!  My first response was, "How dysregulated do you have to be to bite your child. . . on the elbow?"  Then she tells me, "That was going to be the last time she stuck her elbow in my mouth!" 

Favorite One-liners

Sometimes when you're in a pinch, you just need a quick little something to get you through.  Here are my current favorites:

• "Be here now." 

(From the teachings of mindfulness, which encourage you to stay in the moment.)